Spiritual Tools - Ask for Help
We can do together what I cannot.
This is NOT the last tool to pull out when all others fail. I tried that and it nearly killed me. As I look back, a quality support network was built one day at a time by me reaching out and helping others. It is a byproduct of altruism and may not be achievable as an end in itself. I know only a very, very small fraction of what is knowable and have direct experience with less. People are often willing to share their experience, strength and hope. The material is probably not what I truly need even when it is what I want. If someone teaches me to fish, I am much better off in the long run than if they brought me fish.
PRINCIPLES
- Humility
- Courage
- Patience
- Prudence
- Sharing
- Willingness
ACTION STEPS
- Help others for the joy received in the Now in becoming a better servant.
- Exchange numbers with others even if you do not forsee how they can ever be of service to you. I have sometimes gotten help through very unlikely sources.
- When faced with indecision, first imagine a meeting with your mentors - people you respect. Envision what they would suggest you do.
- If one of them seems they may have an answer, contact that one and discuss the situation.
- If no answers come, pick a name at random of those you trust, contact them and explain the situation.
- Either way, start any help seeking conversation by asking first:
"I was wondering if you have a few minutes to help me with a situation I am facing."
Then wait and listen. Most people are glad to be asked for advice but sometimes I may catch them at a hectic or stressful moment. Be patient.
- Try to understand what the person is advising or how an experience they may relate offers direction. I should not try to argue the rightness or wrongness of their suggestion. I came for advice not to judge.
- Pause and reflect. Meditation and prayer are particularly fruitful in this mindset.
- Act promptly on any decision but be willing to take no action if no clear answer arises.
- If there is nothing I can do, I accept reality as it is.
If I am not the solution, I have no problem. If I am the problem, then the solution is within me.
EXAMPLE
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